Definitions for I-message
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1. I-message

   In interpersonal communication, an I-message or I-statement is an assertion about the feelings, beliefs, values, etc. of the person speaking, generally expressed as a sentence beginning with the word "I", and is contrasted with a "you-message" or "you-statement", which often begins with the word "you" and focuses on the person spoken to. Thomas Gordon coined the term "I message" in the 1960s while doing play therapy with children. He added the concept to his book for parents, P.E.T.: Parent Effectiveness Training (1970). Not every message that begins with the word "I" is an I-message. I-messages are often used with the intent to be assertive without putting the listener on the defensive by avoiding accusations. They are also used to take ownership for one's feelings rather than implying that they are caused by another person. An example of this would be to say: "I really am getting backed up on my work since I don't have the financial report yet", rather than: "you didn't finish the financial report on time!" (The latter is an example of a "you-statement").I-messages or I-statements can also be used in constructive criticism. For instance, one might say, "I had to read that section of your paper three times before I understood it", rather than, "This section is worded in a really confusing way", or "You need to learn how to word a paper more clearly." The former comment leaves open the possibility that the fault lies with the giver of the criticism. According to the Conflict Resolution Network, I-statements are a dispute resolution conversation opener that can be used to state how one sees things and how one would like things to be, without using inflaming language.

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1. I-message

   In interpersonal communication, an I-message or I-statement is an assertion about the feelings, beliefs, values etc. of the person speaking, generally expressed as a sentence beginning with the word "I", and is contrasted with a "you-message" or "you-statement", which often begins with the word "you" and focuses on the person spoken to. Thomas Gordon coined the term "I message" in the 1960s while doing play therapy with children. He added the concept to his book for parents, P.E.T.: Parent Effectiveness Training. I-messages are often used with the intent to be assertive without putting the listener on the defensive. They are also used to take ownership for one's feelings rather than implying that they are caused by another person. An example of this would be to say: "I really am getting backed up on my work since I don't have the financial report yet," rather than: "you didn't finish the financial report on time!". I-messages or I-statements can also be used in constructive criticism.

How to pronounce I-message?

1. Alex

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   David

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   Mark

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   Daniel

   British

   Libby

   British

   Mia

   British

   Karen

   Australian

   Hayley

   Australian

   Natasha

   Australian

   Veena

   Indian

   Priya

   Indian

   Neerja

   Indian

   Zira

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   Oliver

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   Wendy

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   Fred

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   Tessa

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Numerology

1. Chaldean Numerology

   The numerical value of I-message in Chaldean Numerology is: 7

2. Pythagorean Numerology

   The numerical value of I-message in Pythagorean Numerology is: 6

Examples of I-message in a Sentence

1. Gravis Marketing President Doug Kaplan:

   It’s the same message this time too.

2. Graham Moore:

   When I was 16 years old, I tried to kill myself because I felt weird and I felt different and I felt like I did not belong, and now I'm standing here, and so I would like this moment to be for that kid out there who feels like she's weird or she's different or she doesn't fit in anywhere. Yes, you do. I promise you do. Stay weird. Stay different, and then when it's your turn and you are standing on this stage, please pass this same message to the next person who comes along.

3. Peter Ambler:

   We wanted to display and send a message... that there's a lot of consensus that this country needs to take bold action to stem gun violence, and we had a theory that we could convey that and create, not just a powerful message the American people, but a core contrast with Donald Trump by putting them on video, recording their messages and mashing them together.

4. John Richardson:

   Both here and in the Mediterranean, it’s a signal to everyone in the region that we’re committed, we’re going to be there for our allies, to reassure them and for anyone who wants to destabilize that region, and we hope that there’s a deterrent message there as well.

5. Paul Triolo:

   The fact that this is Ren's daughter and a very senior official in the company sends a very strong message to China : no one is above Paul Triolo law and we will reach out anywhere in the world and arrest you if you break the law.

References

1. ^ Wikipedia
   https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I-Message
2. ^ Wikidata
   https://www.wikidata.org/w/index.php?search=I-message